The real NYC struggle

why is so hard to stay positive?

In a city like NYC is a little more hard to stay calm and positive all the time and mostly because everybody around you is in their own world , if you have visit NYC before you will  see a very familiar characteristics, pretty much EVERYBODY “wears headphones and walks with a nice cup of coffee in their hands”, and the true is that the life style in NY is so fast and so busy that for a lot of people putting their headphones ON is kind of like a disconnection with their surrenders and the entrances of their very own world.

make a living in NY is a total different story for everybody but since is so expensive you have to spend more time at work than your own home, I have the opportunity to see it from 3 different perspectives .

First you have the typical job in the other side of the city and for anybody who commute to work knows the struggle that the NYC subways is, you never know if the train is working or is delay or pretty much whats going on with the system, so from their you end up late at work and the boss will never understand that you got up at 5:00 am to be on time but that didn’t happen, so from then on you are grumpy with the whole word and the transportation system in NYC.

Second the typical family with 4 kids who lives in the suburbs of NYC and have to commute to the city thru the Metro North or Long Island Rail Rode is about 25 min by train to get to the city and from then on the adventures begins. trying  to get out of Penn station or Metro North, since they are part of the tourist parts of NY is really hard to speed walk in there and take the electric stairs is really annoying because of those who don’t understand the unspoken NY rule about stepping aside and let the (fast people/rush timers ) go ahead, so remember this next time you are in the city “if somebody push you or tells you to move aside don’t be offended, they are probably just trying to get to work on time”.  going back with the example when you had finish your work, getting back home is another challenge, and when you finally get home, most likely very stress out,    to that add to the list a  house full of chores and 4 screaming children demanding for attention of the parents totally understandable but overwhelming, so good sleeping time is far from a dream. Now put that on a 5 days a week of work. extremely stressful.

Third the one who has 2 jobs day/night and as tired and overwhelming that sounds is a sad reality, nobody can work non stopping but that’s the life of some New Yorkers  and they somehow make that happen,

That’s why being positive depends pretty much of each person, everybody have their own story to tell not always is easy but you make it happen because you know you can do anything and you will do what is necessary to provide for yourself and your family, try to keep a positive and happy attitude, start with yourself, that will help others to have the same attitude towards them.

 

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We all are trying to make it happen.

The City of Guap

A lot of people have ask me how much money can you spend in NYC on a regular day

well all depends  of what you are doing or where are you going, but for today’s blog we will do a regular day. A frugal and careful but still want to have fun kind of day.

On a normal day hanging out with friends will start with taking the subway to move around the city ,  that would cost around $10.00 with a metro card

after that one of my friends suggest to go bowling at Bowlmor at Chelsea piers what a fun place that is, nothing extraordinary, possibly there are other places that are not as pricey as that one. But that’s what you do when you have a group of friends, it was around $12 each person plus $6 rental shoes,  for one game. after bowling we went out to eat and  I think that’s the tricky part where you eat,  NYC  have so many delicious options of course we are not talking fast food here which it can be more cheap, So we decided to go to Williamsburg, Brooklyn  if you are visiting New York that’s one stop you need to make, you can find there great restaurants, bars, eclectic shops and so much nightlife attractions, its such a hipster place, I personally like it a lot. one of my go to places to eat is Sea – a Thai restaurant food is great and price wise is very affordable. So I start  my dinner with an entrée I order their famous southwestern soup $5.50 and my main course I had Thai noodles with seafood $13.00 and to drink I just order tap water. (Funny thing I discover sometimes drinks are more expensive than food, not only at Sea but pretty much everywhere in NYC) After dinner we went for dessert, we went to this place I saw good reviews about it’s called “Martha’s bakery” also in Williamsburg Brooklyn. lets just day the place is really, really pricey. I had there the Berry Napoleon  a tiny slice was $7.00 with a cup of hot chocolate $5.50  ((I have a sweet tooth)) I was even more surprise to find out is that is a dollar more expensive to eat at the place than to take it to go. I don’t  think I will be going very often there.

There you go a total normal day in the city cost me $59.OO

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Life in New York City

img_4728If you are not from or live in New York, have you ever wonder what life is like….. I had!

let me tell you a little bit of my story; right before I moved to NY in 2010 I used to live in a Southwestern State nice, calm, hot and big! Every year at the end of the year I like to start my new year watching on TV the ball drop from Times Square I just feel like is such an excited moment to countdown 5-4-3-2-1- and see all those billions pieces of paper come down and see people cold and ecxiteed the kissing around. Well I didn’t know this before but if you want to be in front line for the time the ball drops you have to be there since very early in the morning, and you can’t leave your spot not even for a bathroom break. so I’m more than sure that by 12:05 am everybody is so ready to leave Times Square and go to bed.

when I had to move I knew I was going to miss all that friends, family my house and pretty much everything. but I’m not gonna lie I was so extremely happy, excited over joy I had planned all my future life in my head of course, you know dreams and I was so ready to chase my dreams!!!

When I first arrived to NYC I was with my youngest sister, it was her and me nobody else but 2 young girls. coming from a very hot state we didn’t know that cold weather wasn’t a joke, it was in the middle of December everybody said it was the coolest winter in New York. so the first thing we did was buy jackets, we didn’t have so much money, but we did have the energy to work for it or at least I did my sister was too young to work.

So with no working experience but the willing to do new and good thing I found a job I was so happy I remember. I was working in Wall Street a very important part of the USA, because that’s were the financial stock market is of course I wasn’t working in the financial building but I  was pretty close I got to walked in front of the building every day  on my way to work back then that for me was good enough, I was so happy.

since English is not my first language it was a bit more challenging and when I think about the past I look back and I realize I was so naive. for those who doesn’t know what the word means i will tell you; Naive means “a person who easily believe anything because you don’t know any better or lack of experience” well that’s exactly how I was, I would believe everything someone would tell me. That was my biggest mistake I had always try to be the best and give my 1000% in everything life, work, friends, family and since It was just my sister and I and this big city I wanted to be the best for her.

sadly when it comes to work and fake friends being naive it is really bad, people will take advantage of you. but I learned from my mistakes and happy to say I learned fast. from that moment until now I have grown as a person and I keep growing and learning everyday.

Life in NYC is amazing is excited is adventures. full of new people and things. You only have to be brave enough and take every opportunity that you have it might only comes once in a lifetime, so I say Do Always your BEST, and feel proud of yourself for small or big achievements, not matter where you are always CHASE YOUR DREAMS!!!